Cheating has almost become normalized. Loyalty is extremely rare, and love has turned into nothing but a transaction. It’s like dirt on your hands—here today, gone tomorrow. Dating apps have reduced connections to mere entertainment. Swipe right, swipe left—what’s the fun in that? Commitments now feel like burdens.
Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or recovering from one, you’ve likely felt this deep down at some point. Why does it seem like no one takes relationships seriously anymore? Don’t worry; French philosopher Simone de Beauvoir predicted this decades ago, and we’re living through the consequences.
THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE PROBLEM
The biggest issue is that love is no longer love. It has become another product, a commodity. Like shopping at a grocery store—if you like something, fine; if not, return it. Swipe, match, ghost, and repeat. Relationships are like fast food from Swiggy or Zomato: cheap, instantly available, and disposable. A little imperfection, and it’s tossed into the trash.
People want options but don’t want the responsibility that comes with them. Simone de Beauvoir spoke about this responsibility, and it’s worth exploring further.
We’ve become addicted to keeping doors open—not literal doors, but the ones in relationships. Come when you want, leave when you please. Settling down with one person scares us. The irony? People claim they’re looking for someone “better” or waiting for their “perfect partner.”
But let me break it to you: a perfect partner or relationship doesn’t exist. You don’t find it; you build it. Like tailoring fabric—rough at first but perfect when stitched together with effort. Similarly, relationships require two people working together to make them fit.
LOVE TODAY: A TOOL FOR VALIDATION
Love is now a tool for validation. People don’t want deep connections where you solve problems together or share your heart openly. Instead, they crave attention, ego boosts, and domination. Relationships crumble because of ghosting, cheating, and emotional detachment.
Simone de Beauvoir said true love cannot exist without freedom. But modern relationships are all about control, ego battles, and insecurities. Couples don’t talk for days because of their inflated egos, thinking, “You apologize first.” Personal freedom is often confused with detachment.
Real freedom in a relationship doesn’t mean cutting yourself off from the other person; it means building a space where both individuals grow together. Sadly, most people in relationships today feel lonely despite having a partner.
COMMITMENT: A SCARY WORD
Real commitment scares people because it comes with responsibility. Like Uncle Ben from Spider-Man says, “With great power comes great responsibility.” If you want a great relationship, you must be ready to shoulder the responsibility.
Instead, we prioritize pleasure over depth, hookups over meaningful connections, and attention over effort. We’re dopamine addicts chasing short-term thrills—the excitement of starting something new, saying “I love you,” staying on video calls all night. But relationships built on this superficial foundation crumble in no time.
THE SOLUTION
What’s the way out of this mess?
Detach from constant validation: Start small. If you rely on 10 people daily for validation, reduce it gradually. Seek fulfillment within yourself instead of needing attention from every corner.
Stop chasing perfection: Perfect partners or relationships don’t exist. Build meaningful connections by putting in effort and care. Relationships are not found—they’re crafted through patience and dedication.
Prioritize depth over dopamine: Build deeper connections, have meaningful conversations, and allow time to strengthen your bond. True love takes effort.
WHY ARE MODERN RELATIONSHIPS FAILING?
Why do you think modern relationships are failing? Share your thoughts in the comments. Let’s debate and understand different perspectives.
If you’re in a relationship, give it the attention and effort it deserves. Relationships will have boring days, happy days, and tough days—it’s all part of the journey. And if you’re not in a relationship, fulfill yourself first before seeking a partner. A half-hearted individual cannot build a whole relationship.